Essential Oils - The Basics

The thing I get asked the most about on instagram is essential oils.

Let’s be real though—essential oils have gotten more and more popular in the last few years. It’s basically taking over everyone’s social media feeds, and there’s a reason why. THEY ARE AWESOME.

My “oil journey” began about five years ago, and btw, I don’t consider myself an expert in any way, but I’m an avid user and know the very basics.

Essential Oil Basics

So here’s some common oil terms:

Carrier Oil - An oil (think fractionated coconut oil) that you use to dilute your essential oil or that helps your skin absorb it quicker.

Diffuse - A way to experience the aromatic benefits of your essential oil(s). You will need a diffuser to “diffuse”

Topically - Applying the oil directly onto the skin

Aromatically - Putting an oil through a diffuser

Internally - Ingesting an oil either in a vegetable capsule or putting a drop or two in your water

What oils should you start with (my faves):

  • Lavender

  • On Guard (DoTerra) or Thieves (Young Living)

  • Lemon

  • Tea Tree Oil or Melaleuca

Getting Started With Essential Oils

Getting Started

with essential oils

My favorite places to get quality oils

  1. DoTerra - there are no filler or synthetic oils added. They are pure and the highest quality you can get. They are all organic, verified pure, free of fillers and pesticides. There is also harvest the oils in their natural habitat which provides jobs to people all over the world, many in third world countries. You can ingest any of their oils—they’re that safe to use.

  2. Thrive Market - you can’t really beat the price point here. The oils I have received have all had a food label on them, and had only one ingredient in the oil (no fillers). The bottles are also significantly larger than other oil company’s, so you’re getting way more oil for less money. Make sure you get the thrive brand. I don’t know much more about these unfortunately so I don’t ingest or use them topically. I only diffuse or clean with them.

  3. Young Living - I started with YL oils and still use them. They are all organic. YL has been around for over 20 years, and their quality is awesome. They own all the farms they harvest from and have a huge selection of oils and products. You cannot ingest all of their oils, however, they have a special line of oils that are ingestible.


How to diffuse essential oils:

Fill your diffuser with purified water and add a few drops of your favorite oil. Then turn it on! It’s that easy!

My favorite oils to diffuse:

  • Grapefruit

  • Grapefruit and Lavender (a few drops of each)

  • Lavender

  • On Guard (DoTerra oil)

  • Thieves (Young Living oil)

  • Breathe (DoTerra oil)

  • Tea Tree Oil (Thrive Market)

…and that’s it! What are you favorite oils to diffuse?

Black History Month

Today marks the first day of Black History Month so let’s talk about why we celebrate it.

This month is a time to celebrate, bring awareness, and honor the too-often neglected accomplishments of black Americans. 


Unfortunately I’ve witnessed a lot of criticism of black history month from people. There are many that believe it’s unfair to designate an entire month to a single group of people. However, this is not a time to emphasize black history, but the extraordinary black men and women in OUR history. Black history month is not just for black Americans, it’s for all Americans. 

Black history is OUR history. The impact African Americans have made on our country is indispensable. 


Black history has been historically erased or watered down in our history books. This is why we designate a month to our fellow Americans that are black. They are important. Their stories need to be heard. Their accomplishments need to be celebrated. 

So how do we celebrate black history month? 

We listen. We reflect. We learn. We mourn with our fellow Americans the generational trauma of slavery and segregation. We stand with them. We kneel with them. 

So let’s honor Black History Month together!

You Need To Know Your Child's Personality Type

Those of us with several children know that it’s quite common for them to have the same exact parents, grow up in the same household, and somehow have completely different personalities and tendencies. Every child is different.

This is by far the easiest and most accurate personality assessment I’ve ever learned. It’s used many times in business, but I believe it is CRUCIAL for us parents to know and understand these types.

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Every person is a little bit of all four types, however, your child (and you too!) has a primary type. This is how you generally process information and see the world.

Let’s introduce you to the four types:


  • Direct, decisive, adventurous, impatient, very competitive

  • He/She is always right, just as him/her

  • Your D child has a strong need to achieve. They thrive when given challenges and choices.

  • They hate being told what to do, and being slowed down

  • The opposite personality is an S personality


  • Social, energetic, easily distracted, animated, fearless, loves to perform

  • Makes you question if they pounded a red bull for breakfast

  • Thrives in social settings and requires more activity and outdoor time than your other children

  • The opposite personality is a C personality


  • Easy going, patient, loyal, submissive, sensitive, kind, great listener, people pleaser

  • Hates pressure, confrontation, and disappointing someone

  • Needs stability and structure

  • Give them a structure, a schedule, and let them move at their own slower pace

  • They are naturally happy, love people, yet shy away from larger crowds.

  • Very sensitive

  • The opposite personality is a D personality


  • Analytical, critical, careful and cautious, diplomatic, slower-paced, rule follower, logical

  • Loves things to be in order

  • A worry wart

  • Needs to understand “why”

  • Needs things to be organized and thrives in a structured schedule

  • The opposite personality is an I personality

There’s a saying (aka the golden rule), “treat people the way you would like to be treated”.

The “golden rule” is actually terrible though. You should treat people the way THEY would like to be treated. AKA based on their personality type.

As I stated before, everyone has a primary personality type. Everyone also has a secondary personality type.

If you or your child is a D personality, the secondary personality can be an I or a C.

If you or your child is an I personality, the secondary personality can be a D or S.

If you or your child is an S personality, the secondary personality can be an I or C.

If you or your child is a C personality, the secondary personality can be a S or D.

Your secondary type may be how you or your child shows up in public (school, work, daycare, etc.)


What are your children’s personalities? What is your personality?

LWS Healthy, Yummy, and Simple Breakfast Bites

One of my biggest challenges as a mother is making sure my kids have a well balanced diet. Mornings can be stressful, especially before coffee.

A University of Pennsylvania study found that kids that eat eggs for breakfast feel fuller longer and consume less calories at lunch than the kids who ate cereal or oatmeal for breakfast. For me, this is what keeps my girls out of the fridge all day. Seriously, they tryna steal food constantly.


A Cardiff University study revealed that children (ages 9 to 11) are 2x more likely to score higher than average grades if they start the day with a healthy breakfast.

It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that a healthy breakfast is essential to our kiddos.

But let’s get back to the whole stressful mornings thing. Yeah, who has the time or energy to cook a 5 star breakfast? It ain’t me. This is why I make a ton of these breakfast bites ahead of time. I keep them in the fridge and pop them in the microwave for 20-30 seconds in the morning.

That’s what I like to call EFFICIENT.



Eggs (a dozen or so)

Nonstick Cooking Spray

Muffin Pan



Cooked Meat (Sausage, bacon, ham, Turkey lunch meat, Chorizo, whatever you want)


STEP 1: Preheat oven to 375 degrees

STEP 2: Whisk your eggs and a little water in a large bowl. Add salt and pepper to your liking.

STEP 3: Spray your muffin pan with nonstick cooking spray

STEP 4: Pour eggs into muffin pan. I fill each compartment about halfway with the egg mixture.

STEP 5: Add cheese to each muffin slot. We love cheese so I’m pretty generous in this step.

STEP 6: Toss in a couple veggies and your cooked meat (if you’re into that) in each compartment.

STEP 7: Throw em’ in the oven for 20mins until cooked and golden brown


These can be kept in the fridge for 4 days or so. They’re healthy, yummy, and super simple!!!

The Power Of A Five Second Greeting

The relationship between you and your spouse undoubtedly gets more complicated and difficult after kids. I don’t know ONE mom who hasn’t expressed resentment of their spouse. I talk to a lot of moms every day and It breaks my heart to see them struggling to balance and keep their marriage/relationships in good standing while exhaustedly trying to keep tiny humans alive. And listen, I’ve been there too!

You are not alone.

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It’s my belief that a good marriage/relationship is the best gift you can give to your children. I want my children to grow up in a happy and healthy household. Not a perfect one, but one that models love and respect.

Someone recently asked me the question, how do you greet Anthony when he comes home from work?

I had to think about that for a second because I don’t greet him in a particularly abnormal or special way. It’s usually a half smile, a head nod, maybe a “what’s up!” or “hey”.

It got me thinking. That’s certainly not how we used to greet one another in our “honeymoon phase”. I was excited to see him. I was more animated and made much more of an effort. Now when I see him I’m mostly exhausted and beat down by the day.

Many of our spouses no longer receive the warm, animated greeting that was common pre-parenthood.

What if we started to think of our greetings as investments into our relationships.

Even when we really don’t feel like it. Even when it feels forced. What if we chose to fully acknowledge our spouse with love and kindness?

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Someone has to be the leader of change in a relationship and if that job isn’t being occupied by your spouse, it’s time you stepped up and did the damn thang. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely rewarding.

This only takes five seconds and could make a huge difference in your relationship over time.

My Secret Strategy For Crushing 2019 Goals

I’m no stranger to goal setting and planning. In fact, I’m a self-proclaimed plan-aholic. I have tried nearly every planner system. I have read dozens and dozens of books on goal setting and motivation. I’m not an expert by any means, but I have learned a few things that really work.

There’s a reason why less than 10% of people actually achieve their New Year’s resolutions. It’s not because we all lack motivation or determination. It’s because our goals aren’t specific enough and frankly, they’re the wrong kind of goals.

It’s not the simple act of changing that we’re after. We want the feeling the change will bring to our lives.
— Shelby Fowler

Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to save money? Why do you want to quit doing x, y, z? It’s not the simple act of changing that we’re after. We want the feeling the change will bring to our lives.

We want to feel more confident. We want to feel secure. We want to feel powerful, accomplished, energized, or focused.


I typically make a list of all the accomplishments I’d like to make and then I ask myself how those accomplishments will make me feel. Those become my words for the year. I write them everywhere. I make them my background on my phone. I meditate on these words. They become the filter for which I make daily and important decisions. Will this make me feel soulful? Playful? Festive? How do I feel these things today? What can I do?

Creating these power words is my secret to crushing your goals for the year.

Let me know in the comments what your words are!